Partner Connection & Pairing
The magic happens when you connect. Partner Connection transforms BeMoreKinky from a personal discovery tool into a relationship superpower. See where your desires align, uncover surprising matches you never discussed, and finally have those conversations that felt too awkward to start. With secure pairing, and your No answers kept private, you can explore together while respecting each other's privacy and pace. This is intimacy communication made effortless.
Connecting with a Partner
Methods of Connection
There are two ways to connect with a partner:
1. Email Invitation
Send an invitation directly to your partner's email:
- Go to Partner tab
- Tap Invite Partner
- Enter your partner's email address
- Tap Send Invitation
- Your partner receives an email with a link to connect
Note: Email invitations expire after 7 days. You can resend if needed.
2. Pairing Code
Use a unique code for instant connection:
- Go to Partner tab
- Tap Generate Pairing Code
- Share the 6-digit code with your partner
- Your partner enters the code in their app under Partner > Enter Code
- Connection is established immediately
Note: Pairing codes expire after 15 minutes for security.
Accepting an Invitation
Via Email
- Open the invitation email
- Tap the "Accept Invitation" link
- If you have the app, it opens directly to accept
- If not, you'll be prompted to download the app first
- Once accepted, you're connected!
Via Pairing Code
- Go to Partner tab
- Tap Enter Pairing Code
- Enter the 6-digit code from your partner
- Tap Connect
- You're now connected!
The Partner Dashboard
Once connected, the Partner tab becomes your shared space.
What You'll See
- Partner Profile - Their display name and avatar
- Their Yes and Maybe answers - Grouped by area, with a count for each
- Matching Interests - Activities you both rated Yes or Maybe
- Quiz Comparisons - Compare your quiz results once you have both finished the same quiz
Matching Interests
The app automatically identifies:
- Perfect Matches - Activities you both rated Yes
- Potential Matches - One Yes and one Maybe
- Discussion Points - Different ratings worth discussing
What Your Partner Can See
There are no sharing settings or privacy levels. Once you are connected:
- Your partner sees the activities you rated Yes or Maybe. They never see your No answers.
- Your quiz results are shared automatically once your partner finishes the same quiz. Until then, they only see that you finished.
- Journal entries are shared unless you switch sharing off for that entry.
Partner Status
Connection States
Your partnership can have different statuses:
| Status | Meaning |
|---|---|
| Active | Full partnership, all features available |
| Pending | Invitation sent, waiting for acceptance |
| Expired | Invitation not accepted within timeframe |
Ending a Partnership
Disconnecting from a Partner
If you need to end a partnership:
- Go to the Partner tab and open Partner settings
- Tap Remove partner connection
- Confirm with Unlink partner
What Happens When You Disconnect
- Chat closes on both devices, and messages can't be recovered, even if you link again
- Shared journal entries and shared quiz results stop being visible to either of you
- Each of you keeps your own data
- Your partner is notified that the connection ended
Can You Reconnect?
Yes! Former partners can reconnect by sending a new invitation. However, previously shared data from before the disconnection is not restored.
Multiple Partners
Current Limitations
The standard account supports one active partner connection at a time. To connect with a different partner:
- End your current partnership
- Send a new invitation
Premium Multi-Partner (Coming Soon)
Premium members may have access to multiple simultaneous partner connections in future updates.
Partner Notifications
Notification Types
When connected, you may receive notifications about:
- Partner accepted your invitation
- Partner completed a quiz
- Partner created a play proposal
- Partner assigned you a task
Managing Notifications
Control partner notifications:
- Go to Profile > Notification Settings
- Find Partner Notifications
- Toggle individual notification types on/off
Common Questions
Q: My invitation email never arrived. What should I do?
A:
- Ask your partner to check spam/junk folders
- Verify the email address is correct
- Try resending the invitation
- Use a pairing code instead as an alternative
Q: Can my partner see activities I rated "No"?
A: No. Only Yes and Maybe ratings are shared. Your No ratings and hidden activities remain completely private.
Q: What if my partner doesn't have the app yet?
A: When they tap the email invitation link, they'll be directed to download the app first. After installation, the invitation link will still work.
Q: Can I have more than one partner?
A: Currently, you can have one active partner at a time. Multi-partner support may be added in future updates.
Q: Will my partner know if I change my ratings?
A: They'll see updated shared rankings but won't receive notifications about specific changes unless the matching interests list changes.
Q: Can I block someone who invited me?
A: Yes. When viewing an invitation, tap Decline and select Block this person. They won't be able to send you future invitations.
Troubleshooting Partner Issues
"Invitation Expired" Error
The invitation link is only valid for 7 days. Ask your partner to send a new invitation or use a pairing code instead.
"Invalid Pairing Code" Error
- Pairing codes expire after 15 minutes
- Ensure you entered the code correctly (check for similar-looking characters like 0/O, 1/I)
- Ask your partner to generate a new code
"Already Connected" Error
You or your partner may already have an active partnership. End the existing connection before creating a new one.
Partner Data Not Loading
- Pull down to refresh the Partner tab
- Check your internet connection
- Try logging out and back in