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Physical Positions & Postures (Rules 1-10)

Woman kneeling in door as part of high protocol rules

Your body is both canvas and instrument in a high-protocol dynamic. How you stand, kneel or present yourself speaks volumes before a single word is uttered. These first ten rules focus on form – the sublime art that shows your submission and respect. (Think of them as mastering “physical grammar.”) Practice them with pride and precision, and they become second nature even under the most intense scenes.

Basic Slave Positions Every Submissive Should Master

Even before any scene starts, a submissive should appear ready to serve. Consider these fundamental poses your baseline vocabulary:

The "Present" Kneel: Sit back on your heels with legs comfortably apart, back straight, and chin tucked. Palms rest upturned on your thighs. Your gaze is respectfully lowered. This position (sometimes called the "foundation pose") silently says "I am here and ready." It's often used for greetings or simple obedience, and it trains your endurance and focus. One training guide even suggests holding a present kneel for 10 minutes at a time as daily practice. Consistency in this simple posture reinforces the power exchange: each second on your knees strengthens your mindset as well as your lower body.
The “Nadu” Stretch: A variant of present kneel for extra humility. Again on heels, but spread your knees wide and extend your hands forward on your thighs (palms up). By exposing yourself more fully – legs open, palms out – you physically display deeper vulnerability. The Nadu emphasizes compliance and availability. (It originated in some traditional protocols and shows your total willingness to serve.)
The “Tower” Kneel: An even more formal posture. Legs and ankles squeezed tightly together, back arched tall, head aligned forward – imagine yourself a sturdy obelisk from floor to crown. Hands remain on thighs (palms in or down). The Tower signifies disciplined waiting and alertness. It’s stately and a little uncomfortable to maintain, demonstrating that you’re pulled taut by respect and attentiveness.
The “Modest” Kneel: Similar to the Present, but with an air of coyness: knees splayed apart, and instead of hands atop your thighs, place them modestly together between your knees (or on the floor in front). This shows bashfulness or deference. You’re kneeling to serve, but with a gentle, inquisitive humility.
Table Position (Human Furniture): This is a submission classic – you lie chest-down on a sturdy surface (floor, bench, or even a low table) with arms and legs carefully arranged to support your Dominant if needed, as if you’re a living coffee table. Your spine remains straight, face usually turned aside. Your body is utterly passive; this position is both humiliating and relaxing. While in it, you have no duties but to hold still and available. It’s a vivid display of trust (all your weight is on your Dom's word!) and devotion.
Prostrate “Submit”: From kneeling, fold your body entirely forward so your forehead touches the floor (arms can be stretched out or resting under you). This is the posture of absolute submission and repentance. You are offering your entire self, virtually touching the ground behind your Dom’s throne. It visually screams “I am yours.” Use this for punishments or the deepest vows of obedience.

Each of these positions is not random – each conveys a shade of meaning. Together, they form your physical language. By training yourself to move fluidly between them, you become more than fidgety: you become elegant, purposeful, a vessel of devotion. These positions will recur in many tasks below – so master them well. And always remember: maintain posture, silence (unless otherwise instructed) and lowered eyes until invited to break them. A flawless posture says everything about your role.

Proper Kneeling Positions for Different Occasions

Kneeling is often the go-to expression of submission, but even it has nuance. Knowing which kneel to strike for which occasion shows attentiveness and respect. Here are some situational kneels:

Greeting Kneel: When your Dominant enters a room or greets you after an absence, a respectful greeting kneel is in order. Kneel on both heels, back straight. Whether you spread your knees slightly or keep them together depends on the formality: a narrower stance with hands in your lap is more demure (think waiting politely), whereas a wider stance with palms up may be used for a grand entrance. Make sure your head is bowed as they approach, eyes lowered until you are addressed. One Mistress recalls loving to see her submissive waiting at the door, chest down and eyes on the floor, until she commanded him to rise.
Ceremonial Kneel: For more formal rituals – perhaps an official collaring, or before a special ceremonial task – shift to the most exposed kneel: spread your legs further apart and lean your torso forward slightly, hands behind your head or upholding your hair away from your neck. This position fully offers your throat and chest, a dramatic display of trust (often used when being collared or formally introduced). It’s not comfortable, but it looks stunning.
Prone Feeding/Kneeling Forward: If you are kneeling in front of your Dominant (say, to be fed or used handsfree), try the lean-forward kneel: start in Present, then slowly lean on straight arms, so your upper body becomes a table. Your knees stay slightly back. This posture places your butt in the air and your face forward – perfect for serving someone who loves to see or use your body freely.
Prayerful Kneel: After a correction or request for forgiveness, you might kneel creste. That means sink into the full Submit position (forehead to floor). This moment of humility signals genuine remorse or reverence. It’s even more submissive than just “present”; it’s a full bow of atonement. Use it when requested, as a penance or a stark vow of obedience.
“Tower in Waiting” Kneel: When you’re kneeling for a longer discussion or waiting period, the Tower position on heels may be favored: legs together, hands on thighs. It keeps you alert. For example, if told to sit in the corner until further notice, tower-kneel near the wall – it shows you are ready the instant they say so.

In any kneel: keep your spine straight, chin level (never jutting forward), and face gentle. Check your feet: turn toes inward to sit fully on your heels (if flexibility allows). Hands can change: on thighs for a relaxed service pose, elevated to show offering, or behind back for formal attention. The key is fluid obedience: if your Dominant says "kneel," you should instantly know which variant is appropriate. In fact, one Mistress apparently signals exactly this: a "spread your legs" gesture meant different kneels. The symbol of the kneel – head bent, heart open – is the same, but the style flexes with context.

Inspection Position: Standing and Display Protocols

Collars and other gear for high protocol tasks

Sometimes your Dominant will order you to present yourself standing. This “inspection” or “display” position is about showing your body and expression in a neutral statement of submission. Follow these guidelines:

Perfect Posture: Stand tall, feet about shoulder-width (or closer, as ordered), spine straight, shoulders back. Imagine a string pulling your head skyward. Your chest is out just enough to appear strong but not bragging. Do the classic “military posture” – it exalts your confidence in service.
Symmetry and Alignment: Align your arms exactly as instructed: often hands are clasped lightly behind your back or at your sides (fingers together, thumbs along seams of pants). Some dominants prefer both hands behind the lower lumbar (secretary pose), others at sides with fingertips lightly touching the seams. Either way, pin those hands in place. Your fingers should never wiggle out of order: maintained stillness is part of your task.
Leg Position: A slight bend often works best (never stiff-locked knees). Sometimes you'll be told to keep them together for formality ("feet touching"), or apart just so perhaps a fist distance. If the Dominant uses the "inspection" gesture described by Mistress Ezada, it means make yourself available: legs comfortably apart, ready to be evaluated.
Head and Gaze: Raise your chin up so your posture is proud, but tip your eyes down. Never meet your Dominant’s gaze unless explicitly permitted (avoid looking away as though bored – keep vigilance on them, even if your gaze flickers instead to their chest or hands). Think of your eyes as mirrors of respect: lowered until invited. If asked to look up, do so willingly and remember that full eye contact can be both an honor and an invitation.
Stillness: Freeze. Especially during inspection, do not move unless you’re instructed. Every muscle should be calm. This stillness magnifies your attentiveness and control. Small details matter – keep breathing softly, without bulky movements. If it helps, lightly press your tongue against the roof of your mouth to steady your face, and relax your jaw. A single fidget can break the formality.
Dress and Grooming: The inspection position often comes after your Dominant has requested you to prepare. Show them the result of that prep. For example, stand with hands behind back (as Ezada's sub did) and chest forward. If you were told to be ready, your outfit/uniform should be impeccable and appropriate (pressed, modest, possibly color-coded to service). If nothing special was said, even being neatly nude can be an inspection: presenting every curve, every inch for the Dom's appraisal.

In short: the inspection is a silent conference. The Dominant may walk around you, speak commands, or just watch. Your job is to display obedience. The only words necessary might be a quiet "Yes, Sir/Ma'am" when hungry or asked, or a polite cough if you must. Remember Mistress Ezada's command: present your body with a hollow back and a tall neck. It should feel like a formality but look like you belong for evaluation – disciplined and available.

Punishment Positions and Corner Time Stances

Even in diligent submission, mistakes or play-fights happen. When instructed, certain positions become part of your gentle penance or timeout. The idea is to look defeated, restrained or focused on your actions, as a physical way to process the lesson. Keep calm pride folded away; these poses are often uncomfortable by design:

Corner Stand: One classic “time-out” is throwing you into a corner. Face the corner (to hide your face, symbolizing shame). Stand with your nose or forehead almost touching both walls, body elongated on your toes. Hands are usually behind your back or occasionally on the wall, as ordered. Feet stay shoulder-width apart or as instructed. It’s boring, it’s dull – exactly the point. You can’t fidget to watch the room, only hold yourself there. It’s silent isolation. (Some Dominants require you to count breaths or do wall-pushups while there, but check consent first.)
Wall Stretch: Press your back to the wall, and slowly raise both hands above your head, thumb-ins to clasp at the nape. Arch through your spine so the curve is visible (like Miriam’s instruct: “hollow back”. This makes pressing you further against the wall). If directed, slide your feet out until legs lock; you might feel your shoulder blades and heels anchored to the wall. This posture is a subtle punishment: your body resists the wall’s rigidity, making balance and breathing a little work. It’s also a doorway to gratitude when released.
Quarter-Prostrate: On your knees by the center of the room, lean forward onto hands (like a submissive tabletop). Knees slightly wider than hip-width. Place your forehead gently on the floor or look down with chin tucked. Arms can either hold you up or be bound behind for more intensity. This position says, “I surrender.” It’s used when a sharp correction has been given: physically submitting even more.
The “Puppy” or “Doggy”: A lounge-room punishment can be simple: get down on all fours (like the very bottom of a push-up position but with knees on floor). Keep your back level or slightly arched and eyes forward (or on the floor if told). Sometimes a Dominant will encourage you to whimper or bark playfully as part of a scene. It tests posture and opens the back/hips. It’s a bit humiliating – but often curiously cathartic.
Hands in Scissors: This is a simple drill. Stand (or kneel) with arms outstretched in front of you, parallel to the floor – literally like the “Hands Out” drill in [6]. Palms face down. Try to hold them perfectly straight. This is both a position discipline (shoulder strength test) and a method to bring your mind back into focus after disobedience: you’re too engaged in holding that balance to protest.
Overhead Clasp: An alternative is raising one or both arms above your head against a post or wall and interlacing your fingers (or cuffing them gracefully). This forces you to stand with heart exposed and arms tense. It can feel ritualistic: like giving up part of your guard. Being so open is a physical way to admit fault.

In all punishment poses: breathe calmly (unless otherwise instructed). Try to meet them with serenity, thanks for guidance through your discomfort. If safe words were agreed, you always have that backup – but ideally, learn where your line is before. Literally on the psychological "edge," even the limit of endurance, can be where growth happens. Remember, as one submissive ritual note says, you may be scolded or lashed, but at any point saying "I'm sorry" or simply yielding can be exactly what your Dominant wants to hear. And after any punishment, the usual practice is to heartily kiss the leather appliqué or foot that brought you back in line – a sign of gratitude and renewed devotion.

Daily Routines & Rituals (Rules 11-20)

Beyond moments of play, high-protocol submission often embeds into everyday life. Routines and rituals are the connective tissue of D/s, making service automatic and constant. The ideas below cover common daily checkpoints. Adapt them to your lifestyle, and see them as opportunities to deepen your dance of power every morning, noon and night.

Morning Ritual Protocol for Submissives

Daybreak protocols turn waking up into worship. A submissive’s morning is often choreographed to serve the Dominant’s comfort and to set the tone for the day. Consider tasks like:

Early Rise: Punctuality is key. If no specific time is given, still aim to awake first – before your Dominant stirs. You might wear the collar while sleeping or keep it on your nightstand as a reminder. Brush your teeth, scratch off any bed crease, and dress exactly as instructed (even if it’s simply the chosen workspace outfit).
Hydration and Refreshment: Prepare your Dominant’s first drink of the day. For example, brew coffee or tea just right. Many couples agree on specifics: the number of spoonfuls of sugar, exact milk ratio. It shows care. Practice getting it perfect; one blog noted remorse when the coffee was “not exactly as Mistress likes” – your attentive effort matters.
Kneel and Serve: Bring the drink to the bedroom or living area, and kneel to present. In one routine, the submissive makes tea, walks softly to the bedroom door, then kneels at the foot of the bed until his Mistress is ready. Follow any additional instruction: say "Good morning, Sir," or wait in silence. If allowed, you could mouth your breath as you hand her the cup, to subtly inhale her scent.
Ready the Environment: If asked, adjust the space to her liking. Pull open curtains a crack for gentle light, fluff pillows, lay out slippers. Some protocols might have breakfast waiting at the table or the bed: set plates carefully, polish glasses, light candles. Even if your Dominant awakens on their own schedule, the room should always smell clean – perhaps a spritz of her favorite scent.
Formal Address: Every morning greeting should echo formality. Use agreed honorifics from the first moment. Quietly say “Thank you, Sir/Ma’am” for any service requested. Keep your voice low and calm: this is the sound of reverence.

Remember: the morning ritual blends service with a bit of theater. You might even practice a short chant or gratitude line out of scene training (if you both enjoy that). The point is to wake up your dominant's body and mind with attentive luxury – and to wake up your own gratitude and devotion for another day of guidance. After all, as one guide notes: starting with these rituals (coffee on bed, kneeling) can significantly boost mutual arousal and intimacy.

Bedtime Ritual: Evening Service Requirements

As the day closes, you shift roles again – maybe from worker to worshipper. A bedtime ritual helps both partners slide into relaxation. Suggested tasks include:

Safety and Sleep Prep: Ensure your Dominant’s comfort before looking after your own. Ask quietly, “Shall I adjust the covers, Sir?” or if allowed, make the final adjustments (turn down covers, stack pillows just right, maybe put on a light blanket). You might fetch water, a bedtime snack, or medications as needed.
Personal Attention: Often a bit of pampering is included. You could offer a foot rub while they wind down (forget all modesty of toes – this is a gift of your hands), or help them into a robe. If allowed, one ritual is to brush hair: a deeply submissive act is when a Dom lets her sub run fingers through her hair, combing out tangles. Even massaging shoulders or neck was famously satisfying for one tired Mistress in a testimonial. The sub becomes her last soothing touch of the day.
Remove or Secure Toys: If you’ve played, remove whatever was used. Clean toys, put things back in their place. While this sounds mundane, it is a protocol task. Handling the aftermath shows responsibility. Also, it signals scene-end.
Prayers and Thanks (Optional): If spirituality or solemnity is part of your dynamic, you might kneel and whisper thanks or affirm loyalty – not preachy, but heartfelt. A quick “thank you, Sir, that was wonderful,” or “I apologize for anything I have done wrong today,” can be a sweet closing. Some couples share a simple ritual phrase, or a brief embrace and “good night” on knees.
Kneel and Await: Often the last act is kneeling bedside. You might kneel with head bowed and simply say, "I'm here and yours for as long as you desire." Or stay kneeling until the Dominant dismisses you from service for the night. If clothing is involved (as in one story, the husband remains naked, collared, at her feet), follow exactly what's required.

Then, only after the Dominant signals complete release (with a word, snuggle, or just fully reclining) can you reclothe yourself or lie down. Even then, you may sleep nearby—some prefer your gift of presence. If not, retreat quietly. Often the sleeping sub will wear the collar, too, as a symbol that service never truly sleeps (this is personal preference, of course).

The goal: the evenings should end as ceremoniously as they began, reinforcing your roles and winding down tensions. As one Mistress said, finishing chores and tucking her foot soldier in makes her feel truly "worshipped and cherished" as the household's leader when she asks him to quickly tidy away. Do your best to deliver that everyday closure.

Greeting Ritual When Dominant Returns Home

High-protocol submission often remains in effect even when the Dominant is not in sight. One key ritual is the “homecoming”: every time your Dominant (whether partner or play leader) walks in the door, your household dynamic resumes immediately. Consider adopting a formal greeting routine:

Anticipate Their Arrival: Tidy up before they enter. If your Dominant texted arrival time, use that as your cue. By ritual, they should never see clutter or hear the TV blaring. If you can, have a refreshing drink or a snack prepared (a favorite cocktail or poured wine). A clean house and a warm welcome set in minutes can speak volumes about your attention. Even lighting a few candles can signal “I’ve made the effort for this moment.”
The Kneel Greeting: The moment they step through the threshold (especially after work), kneel immediately. Physically lower yourself: you might be told to sit on heels in the foyer or even prostrate briefly (flat on the ground with head down). One guide says "Kneeling means I am ready to serve…giving you my undivided attention". So do it: show that leaving you waiting is the last thing to do before meeting her eyes.
Shoe and Coat Service: After kneeling, take her coat or bag, or at least open the door. Some couples insist the sub remove the Dom's shoes and coat as early tasks. This is literal service at each entry. If you live together, a protocol might exist where she stands and you go fetch a shower or towel for them. The female-led article vividly notes: one husband always expects to be freshly showered and shaved as a ritual, then appear collared and naked to kneel. Contextualize that idea: If asked, you might shower as soon as you see her keys in the lock, so you are perfectly groomed and anticipating her every whim upon greeting.
Pet Worship: At some homes, kissing feet or hands is the first act of greeting. If your Dominant enjoys this – do it. The same FLR blog suggests kissing her shoes or feet as she arrives, the ultimate humility statement. (Be gentle: this is respect and devotion, not rough.) Always wait for the clear sign to cease kissing and rise (in that example, Mistress clicks her fingers to stand him up).
Verbal Acknowledgment: Immediately acknowledge her homecoming. Softly say "Welcome home, Sir/Ma'am" or another agreed phrase. Maintain a pleasant demeanor – a happy smile and eager eyes. One Dom reports that nothing pleases her more than a sub kneeling and smiling with "eagerness in his eyes". Indeed, showing genuine joy at serving is essential: the focus is on her comfort, but it helps if you also radiate gratitude to be there.
Serve a Refreshment: If not done earlier, you might be sent to fetch the evening drink. Bring it on a tray, place it at hand (right side) without dropping a drop. Stand attentively until handed instructions on what’s next.
Physical Contact (if allowed): A quick touch – a kiss on her hand or foot, or a brief hug – can be comforting if it fits your dynamic. Some couples include this welcomeway as part of hugging, then the sub immediately kneels again. The article notes one submissive hugging first, then dropping to kiss his Domme's feet, then awaiting commands.

This return-home ceremony turns an everyday event into a ritual reaffirmation. Its symbolism: you never stop serving. Even if you’ve been apart all day, the moment she steps in, she reclaims you. Subtle gestures count as much as grand ones: always be polished (clean hair, neat clothes) when answering those extra late-night calls. And as with all protocols, consistency is key. Eventually, these rituals become as normal as brushing teeth – comforting in their predictability, erotic in their mind-set.

Weekend vs Weekday Protocol Differences

Not every day is scripted identically. Often high-protocol roles soften on weekends or intensify depending on the couple. Think of weekdays as the steady drumbeat and weekends as the special fanfare:

Weekday Protocol: On a typical workday, routines might be more rigid yet quicker, since time is short. For example, you might always dress in uniform or chosen work attire and follow the morning tasks (coffee, etc.). Afternoon check-ins (text a status update, one quick kneel at the door after work) might be expected. Dinner service might be formal but fast. For instance, one sub prepares exactly three spoonfuls of sugar in tea before Dom leaves for work (a small detail, but "just like Mistress likes" – and important). Keep your chores sharp: do any weekend mess quickly, so you never have to interrupt.
Weekend Protocol: With extra time, the protocol can either relax or become more elaborate – it depends on your agreement. Some couples intensify the game: perhaps Saturday is “service day” with longer training scenes, or brunch where the sub serves explicitly (waist-deep in collars and aprons). Other couples allow a bit of flexibility as a reward: maybe “weekend pass” to order a meal instead of cooking for her, or wearing casual clothes but still using honorifics. Decide together where the line is. A useful approach is: Weekdays emphasize external structure (uniforms, punctuality), while Weekends can allow more creativity (costumes, elaborate scenes). Conversely, some Dommes prefer the opposite – intensive scene work on weekends when both are free, and a more casual, everyday approach on busy weekdays.

In any case, if a rule changes between weekday/weekend, agree on cues. For instance, a Sunday might allow a “Day Off” where the sub isn’t required to kneel on greeting (even though still polite to do so) – but only if the Dominant explicitly says so. If not stated, better assume all protocols remain.

Noticeably, some rights and duties might only apply at certain times: e.g. maybe only Friday nights are for a formal collar-renewal ceremony, or a once-a-month treat (like an extended orgasm rubric). There’s no single blueprint; the idea is to mark a difference so neither side languishes in monotony. Use weekends to reconnect after a busy week – whether through candlelit dinner service, creative underwear, or simply lounging with her accompanied by servant-like attentiveness (folding laundry while she naps on the sofa, streaming her favorite show at her command, etc.). Still, always show up polished. Even “off days,” wearing a collar or a discreet symbol (favorite robe, certain perfume) can keep the frame in place.

Remember that the baseline is safety and consent: any variation should be discussed. The right amount of structure can feel ritualistic and sexy; too little, and it’s just chores; too much, and you risk burnout. Adjust after a few tries. Many D/s couples find a comforting balance: weekdays for routine discipline, weekends for creativity and extra care.

Communication & Behavior Protocols (Rules 21-30)

With your body addressed, polish how you speak and act. These rules are about manners, tone, and when you choose silence. In high-protocol dynamics, who talks, how, and when is as scripted as the positions above. Use these guidelines to ensure your words always create the right melody of deference.

Speech Restrictions and When to Remain Silent

In strict dynamics, speech is a gift you give when earned. Often a protocol clause is: “Silence until spoken to.” This might sound daunting at first, but it trains obedience and humility. The rules vary in severity, but consider these common standards:

Answer Only When Asked: Unless part of the protocol is relaxed, you do not initiate conversation. The default state is quiet—unless you are spoken to, or have express permission to speak (e.g. during timed “communications” after meals). Think of silence as the background music of respect. If you wish to ask a question (such as permission to interrupt), always use your set phrase (see next section).
Use Mandatory Phrases: In place of free conversation, have a fixed vocabulary of submission. The bulletins are classical: you say "Yes, Sir", "No, Ma'am", "Please, Sir" exactly as taught. There might be proto-words for other acts: "Thank you, Mistress" after being released from service, or "I apologize" when instructed. One BDSM guide explicitly lists these rituals: in high protocol, greetings are "Yes, Sir/Mam," and inquiries only with careful courtesy. If you can memorize a menu of these formal utterances, who needs small talk? Just avoid slang or sarcasm – never slip into casual language or jokes with your Dom at protocol times.
Silence as Discipline and Submission: Holding silence is itself a skill. One trainer emphasizes that silence "for long periods is a common requirement, a testament to your discipline and control over your own impulses". Embrace it. Imagine words as precious coinage – only spend them where you get the most interest (approval, affection). If you feel nervous or humiliated, focus on breathing deeply. Engaging in small talk under protocol dilutes its impact; being the calm, quiet servant often makes her desire – and your next words – far more powerful.
Props and Gestures: If you need something non-urgent (like a glass of water), use a silent gesture or have a safe prearranged cue. For instance, gentle tapping while kneeling has been used in 24/7 protocols. But ideally, one should ask permission first (see next part). A neutral example: in bed, if thirsty, you might look expectantly at the water pitcher and bow your head – hoping for an order to have it. Using your body to communicate can itself be protocol-compliant nonverbal speech.

If ever there’s a misunderstanding, remember: less talk can mean more trust. The moment formality lifts, let your demeanor remain reverent until confirmed otherwise. The hush before your words is also a serving attitude – listening intently to even unspoken bids from your Dominant.

Eye Contact Rules in High Protocol Dynamics

The eyes are windows of power. In most high-protocol scenes, one standard rule is “Eyes down.” But again, this depends on preference:

Eyes Lowered: The classic sub posture is to avert your gaze. Look at the floor a few inches ahead of you, or glance respectfully at your Dominant's chest – giving a quick glance for permission to meet eyes only when told. This constant downward glance emanates respect. One etiquette note: do not stare off into space like a bored waif; look modestly engaged (foot of the bed or hands folded). Lascivity's guide explicitly advises directing eyes demurely to the floor instead of somewhere aimless. Any direct eye contact should happen only by invitation – it's her gift. Discipline yourself to steady, soft gazes at "safe" spots.
Direct Eye Contact (when instructed): Conversely, if your Dominant loves intensity, she may require unwavering eye contact. In such cases, lock eyes and hold still – no blinking. This is rarer at protocol level but common in erotic play (the “Dominant demands your gaze” trope). If required, keep the corners of your brows relaxed to avoid an aggressive or fearful look. Steady on her eyes as if absorbing authority.
Contextual Awareness: Note who else is present. In public protocol scenes, some couples switch to a “public demeanour” rule: sub still shows respect (maybe a nod or curtsey) but minimizes intense gazing to avoid outting the play. Others insist “public or private, the gaze remains locked to protocol.” Check what you’ve agreed: it might be a spectrum, e.g., at a restaurant, you might be told to maintain a subtle gaze at your Dom through her reflection in a window – a clever trick to keep the ritual alive discreetly.

Eye contact is a powerful litmus test. Even if it feels silly at first, it hones your focus and humility. Mastering "when to look and when not to look" under command is a sign of advanced submission. This topic often ties back into speech—as one guide notes, the whole cocktail of eyes-down and silence underscores your discipline.

Asking Permission: Proper Phrasing and Timing

In high protocols, nothing is ever taken for granted – you ask for everything that isn’t freely given. This cements your place. Follow these etiquette rules:

Begin with Submission: Always kneel (unless told you may stay standing) when requesting something non-urgent. Kneeling lowers you physically into humility. Lowering to the ground is a phrase all by itself: “I am small, you are great, may I speak?”
Respectful Phrasing: Frame any request as a question with an honorific and “please” at the end. For example: “Mistress, may I have permission to…” or “Sir, may I be excused to the restroom, please?” Courtesy is key: a hands and a polite tone. Even if your Dominant is a close friend, the formal phrasing turns any communication into part of the ritual. No matter how silly: if you need to sneeze, you must tilt your head down and ask, “Excuse me, Master, may I sneeze, please?”
Timing Matters: Wait for a natural pause. Don’t jump in mid-command or while she’s speaking unless it’s an emergency. If you burble an interruption, retract. If she’s perfuming herself or eyes closed, you might wait for eye-openness or any minor nod. If uncertain, quietly clear your throat twice and bow your head subtly, a gentle indicator that you have a question. Then, when she acknowledges, speak.
No Complaints or Demeanor: Even when asking for something like “permission to sit” or “use the restroom,” say please and no tone of complaint. For instance, a proper ask might be: “Mistress, may I sit on the couch to rest, please?” A shameful or resentful tone would break protocol; maintain that obedient timbre.
The Dominant’s Response: You are looking for a yes/no answer. If the answer is “yes,” the command may require a follow-up: “Yes, Sir” followed by your immediate action (kneeling to receive permission, or a quick “thank you, Ma’am”). If “no,” accept it without argument. Possibly with a quick “Thank you, Mistress” (as if grateful she considered it). In any case, the sub’s gratitude is often protocol.

A tricky one: orgasm permission. In intense protocols, subs often have to ask this. Something like "Sir, may I come (please)?" Recognize that in the height of ecstasy, you must still maintain composure. It's a profound trust to ask permission to climax, but it can make your surrender that much deeper. One BDSM writer notes that having to ask intensifies the forbidden thrill. She specifically wrote about a sub having to wait for permission to swallow cum, but the same ritual applies to the act of coming itself.

In all cases, follow her vocabulary. She may simply say “Yes” or “Hmm” instead of a full “Yes you may.” Learn the subtle cues. In high-protocol, asking is as erotic as doing – it reminds both that even your needs live in her orbit. And always remember: If you do speak, let it matter.

Public vs Private Behavior Modifications

Not every interaction happens behind closed doors. High-protocol in public can be beautiful or tricky. Often, couples draw these lines:

Partial Protocol (Low-Key D/s): You might decide that at bars, restaurants or social events, you maintain the spirit of submission but with discretion. For example, you still use “sir/ma’am” softly and hold doors for your Dom, but you probably won’t kneel in front of guests! You may wait to address issues: e.g., save “May I kiss you, Mistress?” for an intimate pause, not across the table unless you both agreed that’s okay. Subtle actions – handing her menu choices first, clearing a plate, offering a drink – can all be silently submissive in public.
Consistent Protocol: Some Dom/subs go full-time, meaning every moment (including in public venues with minimal privacy) follows the rules. In that case, the sub might still employ many rituals: ritually kneeling the moment the private apartment door closes, then in public a slight courtesy bow when she speaks to you, always standing with hands clasped in the small of your back, etc. If you bump into her accidentally, immediate apology/correction is still expected.
Verbal Adjustments: Keep speech formal even outside: e.g., if something is not allowed to be said at home, it’s also off-limits at the cafe (unless you relax the protocol). Eye contact rules may lighten in a crowd to avoid misunderstandings (maybe you just glance down when hearing her codewords or name in conversation). If you’re uncertain in a situation, default to caution: maybe whisper your request as if still kneeling at home.
Serving in Public: Taking care of personal tasks (refilling her water, adjusting her hair/tie, bringing her belongings) is as graceful publicly as privately. But adjust the manner: instead of prostrating on the floor to retrieve a dropped earring, quietly kneel at your chair and pick it up. If asked to address someone in public, you would still do so with utmost deference but possibly tone down “sir/ma’am” if it would cause confusion. This too can be a signal: if she warns, "not now," treat the rule as suspended temporarily.

Bottom line: the goal is to maintain connection without discomforting outsiders. Many Dommes treasure the feeling that at home her partner follows any command, and that knowledge can seep into public behavior (like always offering a coat or pressing the elevator button first). Use common sense and prior negotiation: have a safe-word for immediate comfort break if a public protocol request ever risks outing or panic. However, well-practiced couples find public etiquette can make private moments richer – for instance, the stolen glance or a secret nod of acknowledgment carries spicy thrill.

Service & Domestic Tasks (Rules 31-40)

High protocol often turns your entire home into your Dom’s domain to manage. These tasks go beyond mere chore charts; they become rituals of service. They remind you daily that their comfort is your contentment. Here are tasks across household, personal, sexual, and dining service:

Household Submissive Tasks and Chore Protocols

Your Dominant’s living space is your sacred project. Keep it impeccable:

Cleaning and Organizing: You might have a fixed schedule: clear the dinner plates and wash them, then polish the table. Vacuum the floors on Mondays, do laundry on Wednesdays. Every object has a place – keep things orderly. For example, one couple agrees the sub restocks the fridge on weekends, and laundry is always folded and labeled with the Dominant’s monogram. If the Dom says a corner is dusty, that stays on your “to do” list until done to her satisfaction (she’ll likely inspect).
Errands and Shopping: Pick up groceries, drop off recycling, handle bills or deliveries as ordered. Do it with precision: even something mundane like buying milk is chance to show dedication (buy the exact brand and fat percentage, no excuses). Some subs go further: one told her Dom she has a “slave date” twice a week to handle shopping.
Babysitting Pets (if any): Walk the dog or feed the cat exactly on schedule. Even pet care can be a service: interview your pets with the same courtesy (e.g. “My apologies, Fluffy; may I give you your dinner?”). This teaches consistency and empathy.
Tidying the Bed and Personal Areas: Make the Dominant’s bed each morning as if preparing an altar. Choose crisp sheets (if requested, launder at the scent she picks). If there’s a work table, straight pencils, align notes. These actions show vigilance even when she’s not watching.
Tech and Environment Management: this is often overlooked but important. Adjust lighting to her taste (she might prefer warm lamplight or bright daylight), set music if asked, or silence notifications on her devices. In public, be ready to pull coats or blankets onto her lap. Little things matter: don’t let newspapers pile up or laundry accumulate on the floor.

Remember that doing these tasks well is not drudgery but devotion. Each chore done perfectly is a secret “I love you” whisper. If the two of you enjoy more structure, you could even formalize them in a domestic contract or written protocol (as some BDSM couples do) to avoid forgetting things and to mark each task complete. The satisfaction in a gleaming floor or a neatly ironed shirt becomes entangled with your pride as a submissive.

Personal Service Duties for Your Dominant

Personal service revolves around her body and preferences, not just the house. It can be deeply intimate and often highly erotic:

Foot Care and Massage: An often-requested duty is a good foot or leg rub after a long day. Know her favorite lotion or oil. If she wears stockings or shoes a lot, it can be heavenly to massage those arches. One diary entry said nothing compares to the submission in gently massaging your Dom’s feet, the way they ultimately control you. Do it politely (no licking unless asked).
In-Bed Services: When she’s ready for sleep or comfort, you might assist in brushing her hair, fastening or loosening bra straps, helping her into pajamas, or applying soothing oils to her temples. Likely, no sensual overtones are needed here (unless she wants otherwise). It’s about care: if she has a neck cramp, rub it; if she’s cold, fetch a robe. Touch here is about comfort and service, not sexual arousal (unless explicitly allowed).
Grooming Assistance: Possibly help her shave legs, apply makeup, or dress. At the very least, lay out her clothes or jewelry before she dresses, per protocol. Some couples playfully extend this: a Dominant might say which perfume to wear (and the submissive is the olfactory assistant). If she’s dressing up, you might hold the dress for her while she steps into it.
Wakeful Attendant: Occasionally, your Dominant might wake you in the night for water, to go to the bathroom, or just because (by choice). You are expected to do so calmly and quickly, even if it means nudging out of a warm bed at 3am. One submissive mentions always being ready with a glass of water by her bedside, anticipating those middle-of-the-night requests.
Errands for Personal Tastes: Have her favorite snacks, books, or items on hand. If she likes a particular kind of tea or candy, stock it. When she expresses a whim (“I’d love some dark chocolate”), aim to fulfill it as soon as practical. It shows you’re attentive not just to duties but to her happiness.

These tasks underscore vulnerability: you trust yourself with her comfort. They also blur the lines between punishment and pleasure: in delivering a slow foot rub or carefully buttoning her blouse, you might even feel your own heartbeat quicken with excitement (that’s passion and care mixing). Always be attentive to her cues – some Dominants adore talk during these services, others want silence. If neither is specified, observe her breathing and acting: dryness of tone might mean she just wants the pampering in peaceful quiet.

Sexual Service Protocols and Availability Rules

When it comes to sex, the protocol is often the height of trust. As her submissive, you should generally consider yourself standing by for her daily or on-demand pleasure:

Always Stay Ready: This doesn't mean sex should happen without limits, but in a formal dynamic it often means being prepared. Keep yourself clean and groomed (trimming nails, good hygiene). Many protocols specify personal grooming: one note in Lascivity's guide was, the sub must "prepare themselves to a high standard," including possibly inserting a toy or otherwise "readying" their body. Even wearing something like a removable gag or plug when home can be a way to stay ready at all times.
Permission to Use Your Body: Some Diamond-dom relationships include rules like "you must ask to use your own body." For example, if you want to masturbate, protocol might insist you say "Mistress, may I pleasure myself?" rather than just indulging. This extends control: even your arousal is given in iniquity. One couple insisted the submissive must always ask before orgasming – turning that moment into an act of ceremony.
Be Responsive: If she picks you up sexually (rules? commands?), follow immediately. Hear her sigh, and decide, “What pleases her next?” Offer your body in the accepted sex positions. For example, drop to all fours in a moment if she needs your back or ass, or present your mouth open (if worship or oral service is requested). In some dynamics, the sub is trained like an “every-use object,” meaning if she’s horny and says “use yourself on me,” you do it.
No Refusal: Within negotiated limits, never flat-out refuse. Exceptions are safety or deep exhaustion (negotiated in advance). If you’re genuinely tired or ill, you should tell her – but often part of high-protocol is learning coping: maybe take naps more often, so you can be available. The submissive’s motto is often “Her pleasure first,” so organizing yourself around that is key.
Aftercare Courtesy: If you do engage in any private act (like being fucked, or fetched, etc.), continue to serve calmly afterward. Never react with negativity. If orgasm was allowed, say "Thank you, Sir," and perhaps perform a soothing act (kiss away any lingering mood). If not allowed, swallow as instructed (in some extreme protocols) or simply remain still and composed.

Sex is a powerful playground, but in high protocol it’s also framed by decorum. Keep a towel or sexy toy ready when needed; detail how she likes stimulation (“this angle feels good?”), since serving her physically well is part of your service.

Meal Service and Dining Etiquette

Serving food and dining with your Dominant offers many signaling moments:

Table Setting: When hosting or eating together, you might set and clear the table with ceremony. Lay out placemats, utensils, napkins as if you were preparing for a dignitary. Small tips: Serve from her left side, take plates from her right, always use both hands to pass anything (fork, napkin). In some households, the submissive may even kneel to serve the plates at the table, rising only with permission.
Serving Courses: If meal is plated or buffet style, fill her plate first. Refill water or drink glasses the moment they get low (a practiced waiter-level skill). In fact, Lascivity's meal protocol example explicitly says: "refill the Dominant's glass whenever it's empty". So watch it constantly – some subs note that a subtle tilt of her glass is all the hint they need.
Kneeling to Eat (or Not): Some strict regimes require the submissive to eat last (or off a plate on the floor). Others insist you always kneel at her chair while she eats. If unsure, default to kneeling after handing her the dish. Some Dominants instruct “finish your chores before touching food”; others might lift the rule for afternoon snacks. Always ask if you can start eating; be prepared to pause mid-bite if permission is revoked.
Politeness Reminders: At breakfast or dinner, maintain eye-lowering and silence unless needed. If she speaks, tuck any morsel so you can reply clearly. If the protocol is very tight, even a muttering “please sir” after you ask for something could be required.
Genuine Nourishment: Some Dominants make meal times a gentle test: “Eat exactly what I give you, without complaint.” If she picks the meal, just chew slowly and relish it (actually liking her cooking or simply pleasing her by eating can be deeply erotic for a Dom). If you’re allowed to fetch items (salt shaker, pour gravy) do so wordlessly when requested. After the meal, present your plate quietly or scrape hers, awaiting her command.
Cleanliness: Once done, be ready to clear dishes, stack them for washing. If your sub duties include kitchen cleaning, perhaps leave a small bow of gratitude once clearing her plate (like pressing a kiss to the back of the hand that held hers through the meal).

Good meal etiquette demonstrates respect for shared ritual. Some Dominants even role-play restaurant scenarios at home (complete with menus and formal service). Use these tasks to refine both your practical skills and your devotion: plating her favorite foods just right is its own aphrodisiac.

Training, Punishment & Rewards (Rules 41-50)

These final ten rules delve into the ongoing education of the submissive – how to improve yourself and navigate discipline. They close the circle: the better you become at service, the more your Dominant can trust you, which in turn deepens your reward and the sweetness of protocol.

Position Training Exercises and Drills

Discipline doesn’t stop at play time. Consider daily “homework” to hone those posture muscles and mental focus:

Daily Drills: Designate a short daily session where you practice positions. For example, a two-week protocol was outlined online: Day 1 practice kneeling (as high-protocol bloggers suggest), Day 2 standing at attention, Day 3 gracefully lowering to floor, and so on. Even if you skip the website, do something similar: each day, pick a posture and hold it easily for a few minutes (then add a couple more each week). Aim to stand so still that holding a book on your head seems easy.
Mirrored Rehearsal: If possible, practice in front of a mirror during training times. Watch for swooping shoulders, a tucked pelvis, or blinking wrong. Train until positions look smooth and confident.
Endurance and Strength: We mentioned holding certain poses for 10 minutes. You might use phone timers: kneel or stand as directed for intervals, gradually increasing time. Add slight weights if told (e.g., hold a small book in outstretched arms). The goal is that obedience feels effortless, even if she says “Quickly, do X knee hold until dinner is served.”
Professionals’ Plans: If she is strict, she might give specific exercises: squats or lunges while maintaining posture, or yoga to keep your body supple for flexibility. You could also do mental training: reciting her preferences in your head, going through “what if” scenarios so you’re never caught unready.
Performance Practice: Some subs find value in “role-play rehearsals” solo. For instance, pretend you’re answering the door or kneeling for permission to research something. Go through the script quietly. It may feel silly alone, but it speeds reflexes in a real scene.

The key is consistency. These exercises are as much brain training as muscle work: later, when the Dom commands without warning, you will already know how to move. Plus, by self-training, you show initiative: the best Dommes recognize and reward a submissive who is proactive about improving.

Punishment Protocols and Acceptance Rituals

We’ve touched on punishment postures, but there can be formal protocols for receiving punishment:

Immediate Compliance: If you’re in the wrong and the Dominant scolds or strikes, do not argue or escalate. If safe to do so, respond with “Yes, Sir/Ma’am… I’m sorry.” Use a calm voice. This immediate auditory submission reinforces that the scene is under control. If told to kneel or turn over for punishment, do so at once and without flinching (within your physical limits).
Sparing Arguments: Resist the urge to protest your innocence in the moment. One rule of resistance play is: real tears or anger may come out, but if a sub is mouthy, the Dom often sees it as “invitation to be worse”【Original**】 (a hyperbolic reflection). In a mature 24/7, once the punishment is decided in negotiated times, protests usually must be saved for the safe word.
Gratitude for Correction: After the punishment ends, say a sincere sentence of gratitude or apology (depending on what's agreed). Some Dominants expect "Thank you for correcting me," or "I'll do better." Indeed, ritualistic thanks is common. If not voiced, sometimes a submissive is asked to kiss the Dominant's boot or another object of authority, as a gesture of humility and thanks (this echoes old slave manuals tested by some practitioners). The later foot-kiss procedure hints at this tradition. Use it to close the disciplinary chapter: kisses or hugs if allowed, plus "I'm sorry" and "thank you" helps both of you move past it.
Learning and Clarifying: Punishments should not be mysteries: afterward (a different scene, with no humiliation in mind), ask what you can do differently. This shows you take it to heart and want to improve. Whether or not the Dom has more punishment planned, demonstrate with your service that you have learned the lesson.
Limits and Safewords: Finally, always keep in mind your limits. If a protocol or punishment truly crosses your boundary (an emotional trigger unwittingly hit), using a safeword is never a failure. Afterward, process it with calm. High-protocol play is daring, but safety is paramount. A good Dom will incorporate aftercare to restore trust and relief; sometimes even a second or two break with reassuring words.

The bottom line: punishment is part of the contract, but done with respect on both sides. If you commit to taking it gracefully and thanking your Dominant for the “lesson,” it often strengthens your bond – like sweeping the dirt in the wake of your mistakes.

Self-Training Tasks Between Sessions

Your growth as a submissive doesn’t pause after “lights out.” Use your free time productively:

Learn Continually: Read BDSM literature or watch educational videos on protocol and service techniques. For example, there are entire manuals on advanced kneeling or collaring ceremonies. Educating yourself (through blogs, e-books, even erotic novels) not only sharpens skills but often turns up new ideas to discuss with your Dom.
Journaling: Keep a submissive journal. After a scene or heavy service day, write about how it felt. Did any position or protocol trip you up? What do you wish had gone differently? A bullet-mark checklist from earlier (did I remember to thank my Mistress after being told to eat?) can prevent repeating mistakes. Your Dominant might even appreciate reading it (with permission) as it shows you care.
Body and Voice Care: Work on your physical presence. A soft, primed voice is useful (practice polite tones). Also, since many positions test flexibility, try stretching or yoga. A little cardio helps you stay steady-kneed. A mindful eating regimine can ensure you have energy but still fit into the aesthetic roles (your Dom might prefer you toned or trim for certain scenes). Obviously do this for health, not to “serve” only – but honestly praising your care can be a turn-on for many tops.
Routine Check-ins: If you leave notes or texts as part of sub protocol, write them well. For instance, a daily journal sent to her in the evening about your gratitude or status could be a rule some Dommes set (with daily review). Use those opportunities to polish spelling and sincerity.
Domestic Prep: Something as simple as memorizing her coffee preference, shoe polish method, or favorite background music can count as training. Keep a check-list of “personal likes/dislikes” updated so nothing is forgotten. A Dom will delight in your attentive knowledge.

Self-training signals you are invested in being better – a clear benefit to the Dominant (the more skilled you are, the richer your shared scenes). Think of it as homework given by desire itself: these tasks ensure you’re always learning from each experience and making the next even smoother.

Earning Privileges Through Exemplary Service

Finally: life under protocol isn’t just a chore, it’s also a reward system. Do your service with enthusiasm and excellence, and you’ll likely find special privileges or treats coming your way:

Privilege Calculator: Some couples keep a sort of ledger. For instance, a week of flawless obedience might 'earn' you one free evening to spend any way you wish (perhaps extended cuddling or permission for some indulgence the Dom allows, like a limited snack or entertainment). Another example: for each extra task done without complaint (“baking extra muffins” or “taking the dog for an extra-long walk”), you might get a coupon for something – maybe being allowed to orgasm once without asking, or a casual pet name.
Extra Tenderness: Ironically, the better you serve, the softer the Dom often becomes with you – which feels like a reward. More cuddles, more affection, more spontaneous play. One submissive noted that after weeks of rigorous chores, his Dominant wife started falling asleep on his shoulder more often on the couch. That kind of unexpected closeness is a secret privilege – a reminder that service deepens connection.
Guilty Pleasures: Negotiate “safe-zone privileges” in advance. For example, let it be known that 100% compliance for a month could mean “Yes, you may drink beer while wearing your uniform” (a fun exception they normally forbid!), or “This weekend, feel free to text me without a courtesy preamble.” These little concessions can motivate while guarding core boundaries.
Celebrations and Rituals: Perhaps achieving a milestone (e.g., one-year anniversary as Dominant/submissive) leads to a ceremony – maybe the sub publicly or privately presents a token of devotion (like giving a small gift or kneeling to receive a renewed collar). Or making it through a particularly hard protocol month could be rewarded with a day-off retreat. Celebrating successes with formal acknowledgment makes the journey feel communal.

Always remember: rewards are not bribes but forms of appreciation. If you never improve or just do bare minimum, privileges won’t come, and pointing that out to yourself can keep you striving. But if your Dominant takes the time to thank you or pamper you because of your dedication, take it in fully. This reciprocity is part of the emotional payoff of high-protocol play.

Finally, one of the sweetest rewards is internal: the pride and deep relaxation that comes from doing your role perfectly. A top reported that watching her sub “in the flow” of such submission is itself rewarding – so simply seeing you enact these rules flawlessly might be the biggest treat for them. Keep that image in mind as you serve: you’re giving her joy, and in turn creating your own sublimated bliss.

Each of these 50 rules and tasks weaves discipline and desire together. Follow them flexibly, discuss them openly, and let them serve as tools for creativity and connection. High protocol is demanding, yes – but also tremendously intimate. When done with consent, humor, and openness, even a reprimand or a chore can be charged with erotic electricity. Trust in the process, trust in each other, and remember: the ultimate purpose is pleasure and growth. Stay playful yet devoted, and in this dance of power you’ll find freedom in surrender. Happy serving!