101 Spicy Never Have I Ever Questions for Adults
Looking to turn up the heat at your next game night? Never Have I Ever is the ultimate way to get friends or partners opening up, especially when you play the dirty version. This classic party game isn't just for college kids; it can be a playful, intimate adventure for couples and a hilarious eye-opener among close friends. In the spirit of famed relationship expert Esther Perel's conversational style, let's dive into how to play this risqué edition in a fun, sensual, and sex-positive way. You'll find tips from sex educators like Midori, Jay Wiseman, Tristan Taormino, and others throughout, along with some wild Reddit stories thrown in for good measure.
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How to Play Never Have I Ever: Dirty Edition
It's typically a drinking game, but you can play with points, candies, whatever works. The rules are simple: one person says "Never have I ever… [something naughty]," and anyone who has done that thing takes a sip (or loses a point, etc.). In the dirty edition all the prompts get spicy, sexy, or just plain scandalous, which leads to blushing, laughing, and surprisingly deep conversations. Here's how to ensure the game stays fun and consensual for everyone:
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Set the ground rules: Before you start, agree that what's shared in the game stays in the room. It's important everyone feels safe to disclose (or drink) without judgment. As sex educator Tristan Taormino advises, "We have to approach sex with an open mind and without judgment… a welcoming, open, nonjudgmental environment". In other words, if a friend confesses to a wild exploit, respond with a laugh or a "oooh, tell us more!", not side-eye. Open, honest communication creates the foundation for any intimate game or experience.
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Gauge comfort levels: Not everyone in your group may be ready to admit their kinkiest escapades, and that's ok. Keep the questions steamy but within the realm of consented experiences. As BDSM author Jay Wiseman says, "Before you can do something to another person, they must agree." In the context of this game, it means everyone should agree to the level of dirtiness. Maybe start with flirty questions and gradually move to bolder ones. Check in with each other... if a topic is off-limits or too sensitive, skip it. You can even choose a code word or phrase people can say if they need a break (borrowing the safe word idea from kink communities). Establishing clear boundaries ensures everyone has fun safely.
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Prepare for surprises: You might think you know your friends or partner, but dirty Never Have I Ever tends to reveal something unexpected. Embrace it! Psychologist Jack Morin famously noted that the very things that inhibit us can also excite us. A little taboo tension, like the nervous thrill of admitting a dirty secret, can amp up the fun. Your shy friend might have a secret wild side, your seemingly bold friend might be the only one not drinking on a certain question. As one Reddit user put it, discovering new sides to your friends or lover can be "a great way to push boundaries and discover each other's comfort zones"... just remember to keep that discovery process gentle and positive.
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Pacing and honesty: With 101 questions (yes, we've compiled 101 sizzling prompts below!), nobody is expected to drink to all of them... at least, we hope not! Don't feel pressured to say "I have" just to impress the group. In fact, playing honestly makes it way more fun. (One Reddit user admitted to fibbing and drinking to things they hadn't done, just to not feel left out, only to later get hit with a string of prompts they had done, resulting in a far bigger booze intake than planned. Lesson learned: the game catches up with you, so might as well keep it real). Take it slow, take small sips, or use non-alcoholic drinks if you want.
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Be supportive: If someone's looking a little embarrassed after drinking to a particularly spicy statement, give 'em a friendly smile or a cheers. The whole point is to learn about each other and have a good time. Every "I have" is basically someone saying "I trust you all enough to know this about me." That's pretty awesome! As kink expert Dossie Easton might say, when someone reveals their intimate experiences, recognize and appreciate the gift of that trust. Build on it by asking funny follow-up questions or just nodding in solidarity.
Alright, let's get to the main event. Here are 101 dirty "Never Have I Ever" questions ranging from playful and frisky to downright wild. They start fairly tame and get more intense as the list goes on, so feel free to cherry-pick the ones that fit your crowd's comfort level. Ready to play? 😈 Never have I ever…
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Never have I ever kissed someone on the first date.
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Never have I ever gone skinny dipping (yes, completely naked in the water).
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Never have I ever flirted with a complete stranger just for fun (or to get a free drink).
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Never have I ever given or received a hickey in a conspicuous place.
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Never have I ever danced provocatively in public (grinding up on someone on the dance floor).
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Never have I ever sent a nude or sexy photo of myself to someone.
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Never have I ever had a friends-with-benefits arrangement (casual hookup with a friend).
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Never have I ever played a party game that involved stripping (like strip poker).
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Never have I ever kissed someone of the same gender (bonus points if it was more than a kiss).
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Never have I ever faked an orgasm.
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Never have I ever used food during foreplay (like whipped cream, chocolate, or fruit).
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Never have I ever made out in a public place where I might get caught (e.g., a movie theater back row).
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Never have I ever worn special lingerie or a costume to seduce someone.
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Never have I ever engaged in some steamy sexting (dirty texting that would make us blush if read aloud).
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Never have I ever watched porn with a partner.
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Never have I ever had phone sex or video chat sex.
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Never have I ever been tied up or blindfolded during sex.
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Never have I ever tied up or blindfolded my partner during sex.
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Never have I ever used a sex toy during intercourse or foreplay.
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Never have I ever role-played a fantasy scenario in bed (pretended to be someone else or acted out a story).
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Never have I ever had sex in a car (backseat, front seat… hopefully not while driving!).
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Never have I ever had sex outdoors in nature (under the stars, on a beach, in the woods, etc.).
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Never have I ever fooled around in a public restroom or fitting room.
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Never have I ever hooked up with a co-worker (office romances or sneaky after-work trysts count!).
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Never have I ever had a one-night stand (slept with someone and never really saw them again).
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Never have I ever slept with more than one person in a single day (within 24 hours).
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Never have I ever had sex in a swimming pool or hot tub.
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Never have I ever had sex in the shower.
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Never have I ever gotten frisky in an elevator (or any small enclosed public space for a quickie).
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Never have I ever had sex on an airplane (welcome to the mile high club).
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Never have I ever had a threesome (sex with 3 people at once).
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Never have I ever had group sex with more than three people involved.
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Never have I ever tried anal sex.
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Never have I ever spanked or been spanked during sex.
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Never have I ever used a whip, riding crop, or paddle on someone (or had it used on me).
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Never have I ever experimented with hot wax (dripped candle wax on someone’s skin for pleasure).
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Never have I ever incorporated ice into foreplay or sex (cold sensations, hot reactions!).
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Never have I ever had sex in my parents’ house (for example, in my childhood bedroom while visiting home).
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Never have I ever caught my parents (or roommates) having sex.
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Never have I ever tried something in real life that I first saw in porn (inspired by a porn scene or idea).
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Never have I ever had to stay quiet during sex because other people were nearby (trying not to wake the roommates, etc.).
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Never have I ever had sex with someone without knowing their name (like a hookup so quick we skipped introductions, or I forgot their name later).
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Never have I ever had sex while others watched with my consent (e.g., sex in front of an audience or at a club).
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Never have I ever watched another couple have sex in person (and they knew I was watching).
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Never have I ever filmed myself having sex (made a homemade sex tape).
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Never have I ever posted my nude photos or sex videos online (Snapchat, OnlyFans, Reddit, porn site – any public or semi-public forum).
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Never have I ever paid for sex or been paid to have sex.
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Never have I ever been to a strip club (as a customer) or hired a stripper for a private show.
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Never have I ever tried sex using a swing or special sex furniture (like those Liberator cushions, restraints systems, etc.).
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Never have I ever been in an open relationship or had a swinger experience (swapped partners with another couple).
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Never have I ever done a body shot (licked alcohol off someone’s body or had them do it off me).
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Never have I ever accidentally sent a dirty text to the wrong person (and immediately panicked).
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Never have I ever licked or sucked someone's toes (or had my toes sucked... hello, foot fetish!).
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Never have I ever had sex during a woman’s period.
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Never have I ever tried erotic choking (had a hand lightly around the neck during sex, with consent).
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Never have I ever worn a collar or leash during sex (or put one on my partner).
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Never have I ever called someone "Master" or "Mistress" (or Daddy/Mommy) in bed, or been called a title like that.
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Never have I ever role-played an authority fantasy, like teacher/student, boss/employee, strict coach, naughty nurse, etc.
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Never have I ever had sex with someone 15+ years older than me.
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Never have I ever kept a partner's piece of clothing (underwear, shirt, etc.) just because I liked their smell on it.
- Never have I ever had bruises, scratch marks, or bite marks the next day from a passionate night.
- Never have I ever sent nude photos to someone I've never met in person (online fling, long-distance stranger, etc.).
- Never have I ever swapped partners with another couple (full-on swinging scenario).
- Never have I ever tried pegging (a woman using a strap-on on a male partner).
- Never have I ever had a sexual encounter with a celebrity or famous person (even a D-list reality star counts!).
- Never have I ever fantasized about hooking up with someone in this room (yes, take a good look around before you drink).
- Never have I ever attended a sex party or orgy just to watch or participate.
- Never have I ever had sex with someone I was not actually attracted to (did it purely for physical release or curiosity).
- Never have I ever tasted myself during a sexual act (for example, kissed my partner after they went down on me, etc.).
- Never have I ever been the person to take someone else’s virginity (I was their first).
- Never have I ever pretended to be a pet/animal (kitty, puppy, pony, etc.) during a sexual scenario.
- Never have I ever had more than three orgasms in one day.
- Never have I ever accidentally injured myself or my partner during sex (pulled a muscle, fell off the bed, head-butted each other... whoops!).
- Never have I ever been caught masturbating by someone.
- Never have I ever masturbated in a public place (somewhere I might get caught).
- Never have I ever watched my partner with someone else (I was a consensual observer while my significant other was with a third person).
- Never have I ever been caught by a stranger while having sex in a public or semi-public place (e.g. a passerby saw us).
- Never have I ever snuck away from a party or event to have a quick sexual encounter (e.g., disappeared from a wedding reception for a quickie).
- Never have I ever worn a remote-controlled sex toy in public (and let someone else control it, like vibrating panties, app-controlled plug, etc.).
- Never have I ever had a sexual encounter with someone in uniform (because let's face it, sometimes the uniform is the attraction, whether it's a firefighter, police officer, nurse, etc.).
- Never have I ever had sex at my workplace (office desk, conference room, etc., during or after hours).
- Never have I ever met up with someone from a dating app or social media purely for a hookup (Tinder, Grindr, DM slide that led to a same-day meet).
- Never have I ever role-played a fictional character during sex (dressed up or acted as a character from a movie, comic, anime, etc.).
- Never have I ever purposely been extra loud during sex in hopes that someone nearby would hear (exhibitionist streak, anyone?).
- Never have I ever had sex with a friend’s ex.
- Never have I ever had sex with a friend’s sibling.
- Never have I ever slept with my own ex after we broke up (ex-sex or “old flame rekindled” moment).
- Never have I ever accidentally said the wrong name in bed (called one lover by an ex’s name, for example).
- Never have I ever had sex while drunk or high.
- Never have I ever given someone a sex toy as a gift (and yes, buying one for yourself to use on them counts).
- Never have I ever taken nude photos outdoors or in a public place (an outdoor photoshoot or flashing the camera outside).
- Never have I ever fallen asleep during sex.
- Never have I ever broken a piece of furniture due to vigorous sex (broken bed frame, snapped couch, knocked something heavy off a shelf).
- Never have I ever had sex on a kitchen counter or dining table (they’re not just for food, it turns out).
- Never have I ever engaged in a steamy cybersex chat (online erotic role-play via text or video, “cybering” with someone).
- Never have I ever had sex with someone more than 10 years younger than me (while I was an adult, and so were they!).
- Never have I ever visited a sex shop with a partner (shopping for toys or lingerie together).
- Never have I ever performed on a live webcam or livestream doing something sexual (from camgirling to an amateur live stream for an audience).
- Never have I ever lied about my “number” of sexual partners (understated or overstated how many people I’ve been with).
- Never have I ever lied during a game of “Never Have I Ever” (said I hadn’t done something when I actually had, or vice versa).
- Never have I ever cheated on a significant other (been unfaithful in a relationship).
Whew! That was a marathon of confessions. By now, you've likely learned some very interesting facts about your friends or lover, perhaps more than you bargained for!
A few closing tips: If some heavy truths came out (like admissions of cheating or other sensitive topics), it might be wise to have an open-hearted chat afterward. The game can be a fun prompt to discuss boundaries or desires going forward. And if you're playing with your partner, take notes! You might have just uncovered a new fantasy to explore together. Sexual communication is important, and asking playful questions is one way to spark it. As Tristan Taormino notes, using games, erotic stories, or prompts can be a great "jumping-off point to get into specifics" with your partner. Maybe tonight's revelations turn into tomorrow's turn-ons—like trying some dirty talk techniques or exploring new roleplay scenarios together.
Finally, respect and gratitude: thank each other for being honest and vulnerable. After all, your friends just trusted you with some of their naughtiest secrets. Honor that trust (no teasing beyond good fun, and no gossiping outside the group!). As Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy remind us, in any erotic play, even a "just a game" scenario, all participants should have one another's well-being as the top priority. Keep looking out for each other, and these spicy games will bring you closer together.
Now that you’re armed with 101 dirty Never Have I Ever questions, go forth and play! Enjoy the flirtatious banter, the “Oh my god, you did what?!” moments, and maybe the inspiration to create some new memories (or bucket list items) of your own. Whether it leads to laughter, deep conversations, or some late-night re-enactments with a lover, remember to have fun and stay sex-positive. As the saying goes, good girls (and boys, and enbies) might go to heaven, but the naughty ones have more fun... and now we know exactly what kind of fun everyone's been up to. Cheers!