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•By J & L, founders of BeMoreKinky

150 Spicy Questions to Ask Your Friends

You know when you get to that point of the party where you've had enough drinks that conversations about the weather just don't cut it? Nothing's better than a game of spicy questions to help you really get to know your friends!

Here are 150 of them. It starts with some friendly and fun options, then goes into the sexy and deranged. Have fun!

Jump to: for friends · funny · yes or no · one on one · over text · really spicy · games · hot seat · bonus round. Everyone playing is an adult, and anyone can pass on any question, no reason needed.

Questions for the whole group

Spicy questions to ask your friends

  1. What's the most embarrassing thing you've done to impress a crush?
  2. Who was your first kiss, and would you kiss them again now?
  3. What's a secret you kept from your parents that they still don't know?
  4. Which ex would you text back tonight if they messaged you?
  5. What's the pettiest reason you've ended things with someone?
  6. Who in this group do you think has the wildest dating history?
  7. What's the biggest lie you've told on a first date?
  8. What's a red flag you ignored because they were hot?
  9. Have you ever had a crush on a friend's partner?
  10. What's the most rebellious thing you've ever done?
  11. What's one thing you'd never want your boss to find out about you?
  12. Which celebrity would you drop everything for?
  13. What's the worst thing you've done while drunk that you still think about?
  14. What's the most money you've spent trying to impress someone?
  15. Who was the last person you stalked on social media, and why?
  16. What's a rumor about you that was true?
  17. What's the most awkward way you've been caught flirting?
  18. If you had to date someone in this group, who would it be?
  19. What's a text you sent that you'd pay to unsend?
  20. What's something you pretend to like because your partner likes it?

Funny spicy questions to ask friends

  1. What's the worst pickup line that worked on you?
  2. What's the strangest place you've woken up after a night out?
  3. Which of your friends would be the worst wingman, and why?
  4. What's the most ridiculous thing you've said during a make out session?
  5. What's your most embarrassing autocorrect fail to someone you had a crush on?
  6. What's the dumbest way you've hurt yourself showing off?
  7. What's the weirdest compliment anyone has given you on a date?
  8. What song would you be mortified to hear come on during sex?
  9. What's the worst date you've been on, start to finish?
  10. If your love life were a reality show, what would it be called?
  11. What's the most unhinged thing in your search history right now?
  12. Which friend here would get kicked off a dating show first?
  13. What's the weirdest excuse you've used to get out of a date?
  14. What's the most embarrassing thing a roommate has caught you doing?
  15. What fake name have you given to someone at a bar?
  16. What's the cringiest thing you've ever posted, and is it still up?
  17. Who's the worst kisser you've kissed, and what went wrong? (No names needed.)
  18. What's the worst thing you've blurted out when you meant to flirt?
  19. What's your go-to excuse when you want to leave a date early?
  20. What's the most chaotic group chat you're in, and what was the last message?

Spicy yes or no questions

  1. Have you ever ghosted someone you liked?
  2. Would you date someone your friends all hated?
  3. Do you still have photos of an ex on your phone?
  4. Would you read your partner's messages if they left their phone unlocked?
  5. Have you ever kissed someone at a party and never told a soul?
  6. Would you get back with your first love?
  7. Do you think you're a better kisser than most people here?
  8. Have you ever had a crush on a boss or a coworker?
  9. Would you go on a blind date set up by this group?
  10. Have you ever gone through someone's phone while they slept?
  11. Would you tell your best friend if you saw their partner on a dating app?
  12. Is there someone who could text you right now and change your plans for tonight?
  13. Do you have a secret social media account?
  14. Would you sleep with someone on the first date?
  15. Have you ever slid into a celebrity's DMs?
  16. Would you date someone ten years older than you?
  17. Do you think anyone here has a crush on you?
  18. Have you ever pretended to be single when you weren't?
  19. Would you let this group pick your next date from your matches?
  20. Is there a question on this list you've already decided not to answer?

Want to keep the questions going with a partner after everyone goes home? The BeMoreKinky app has a spicy Truth or Dare game, and you can both rate activities privately to find out what you're each excited to try.

Questions for one friend at a time

Spicy questions to ask a friend one on one

  1. What's something you've never told anyone else in our friend group?
  2. Who do you think about when you can't sleep?
  3. What's the real reason your last relationship ended?
  4. Have you ever had feelings for me, even for five minutes?
  5. What's a fantasy you've never said out loud?
  6. Which of my exes did you secretly hate?
  7. What's the most jealous you've ever been, and of who?
  8. Is there anyone you regret not hooking up with?
  9. What's the biggest secret you're keeping right now?
  10. What do you want more of in your sex life?
  11. Who's the one that got away, honestly?
  12. What's something you'd only tell me after a few drinks?
  13. Have you ever lied to me to protect someone else?
  14. What's the boldest thing you've done for love?
  15. What's a turn-on you'd be embarrassed for other people to know about?
  16. Do you think your partner knows what you really want?
  17. What's the riskiest thing you've done in a relationship?
  18. What would you do tomorrow if you knew nobody would ever find out?
  19. What do you think people get wrong about your love life?
  20. What's something you've always wanted to ask me but haven't?

Spicy questions to ask over text

  1. Quick, who was the last person you thought about naked?
  2. What's the last thing you screenshotted and sent to someone else?
  3. Who's the last person you drunk texted?
  4. What's the third photo in your camera roll? Describe it, no context.
  5. What's the flirtiest message sitting in your phone right now?
  6. Who's the last person you unfollowed, and what did they do?
  7. Out of ten, how's your love life right now?
  8. What one emoji sums up your last date?
  9. Who would you text if you wanted to get into trouble tonight?
  10. What's a message you typed and deleted this week?
  11. Who do you have on mute, and why?
  12. What's the spiciest thing you've ever sent by text?
  13. Who's your celebrity hall pass, and why that one?
  14. What made you blush most recently?
  15. What did you dream about last night, honestly?
  16. Who's the last person to leave you on read?
  17. What's something you'd say over text but never to my face?
  18. Voice note only: what's your most embarrassing hookup story?
  19. Which dating app has given you your worst story?
  20. Who was the last person to make you smile at your phone like an idiot?

Getting to the sexy questions

Really spicy questions (adults only)

  1. What's the wildest place you've had sex?
  2. What's your number, and do you round it up or down?
  3. What's a kink you'd try with the right person?
  4. What's the best sex you've ever had, and what made it so good?
  5. Have you had a threesome, or would you?
  6. What's the most adventurous thing you've done in bed?
  7. What's a turn-off of yours that most people wouldn't guess?
  8. Do you prefer to be in charge in bed or to be told what to do?
  9. What's the dirtiest text you've ever received?
  10. What's a fantasy you'd only act out with a stranger?
  11. What do you notice first on someone you're into?
  12. What's the longest you've gone without sex, and how did you cope?
  13. What's the most times you've had sex in one day?
  14. What's your favorite position, and why that one?
  15. Have you been caught mid hookup, and by who?
  16. What's the kinkiest thing a partner has asked you to do?
  17. How many sex toys do you own, roughly?
  18. What's something you've done in bed that you'd never tell your parents?
  19. Would you ever watch a partner with someone else?
  20. What's a sex rule you have that nobody here would expect?

For the bedroom version of 105, our guide to threesome sex positions covers the practical side. For roleplay answers on 110, the roleplay ideas list has 100 starting points. If your group wants to go further, our freaky questions are explicit from the first one.

Spicy question games to play with friends

Any of the lists above becomes a game the second you add a rule.

Hot seat. Someone gets two minutes in the middle. Everyone else fires questions. Pass whenever you like. Timer goes, next victim.

Answer or sip. Read a question to one person. They answer honestly or take a drink, and nobody comments on which they chose. Our drinking games for couples list has more rules like this that also work in a group.

Yes or no lightning round. Grab 41 to 60. Thumbs up or down, all at once. If you're the only thumb pointing the other way, expect a look.

Bowl draw. Questions on scraps of paper, folded, in a bowl. Everyone sneaks in two of their own, which is where it gets messy. Card people can do the same thing with sexy card games.

If your group prefers statements to questions, switch to our spicy never have I ever questions. For groups who like to argue and vote, try the extreme would you rather questions. Playing as two? Our spicy questions for couples are written for partners.

Hot seat questions about the group

  1. Who in this room would you trust with your unlocked phone for a day?
  2. Who here would you call to bail you out at 3am?
  3. Which friend here would you swap lives with for a week?
  4. Who in this room is the biggest flirt?
  5. Who here gives the worst dating advice?
  6. Which of us would you set up with your sibling?
  7. Who in this room has the most secrets?
  8. Whose love life would make the best movie?
  9. Who here would last longest on a date without checking their phone?
  10. Who's most likely to marry someone they met on vacation?
  11. Who's most likely to get back with an ex this year?
  12. Which person here would you want as your wingman tonight?
  13. Who in this room do you think is the best kisser?
  14. Who here would be worst at speed dating?
  15. Whose browser history would you least want to see?
  16. Who here would be worst at keeping a secret relationship quiet?
  17. Who in this group has changed the most since you met them?
  18. Which friend do you think has the most surprising kink?
  19. Who's most likely to send a nude to the wrong person?
  20. Who in this room would you go to for sex advice?

Bonus round: the spiciest questions to ask your friends

  1. What's the one thing you hope nobody here ever finds out?
  2. Have you ever hooked up with a friend's ex? Leave the names out, and nobody guesses.
  3. What's the closest you've come to cheating?
  4. If you could sleep with anyone here with zero consequences, would you?
  5. What's the worst thing you've said about a friend behind their back?
  6. What's a fantasy you've had about someone you know in real life? (Leave out the name.)
  7. What's the most scandalous thing you've done at a friend's party?
  8. Who here do you think has the best sex life, and why?
  9. What's a secret about your sex life that would shock this room?
  10. Which question on this list were you hoping nobody would ask you?