Guide series
Practices
A diverse range of BDSM practices to inspire exploration and deepen connection through play.
BDSM is a rich and varied world of practices, each offering unique ways to connect, communicate, and play. Whether you're seeking guidance on behavior-focused training or sensory-rich experiences, this section provides a comprehensive guide to help you navigate your journey.
What's Covered in This Section
Behavior Training
Explore the psychological and relational aspects of BDSM through structured training techniques. From brat taming to pet play, discover how to build dynamics that balance discipline and fun.
Sensory Play
Dive into the world of heightened sensation. Whether you're new to sensory-focused scenes or looking to refine your approach, learn how to engage all five senses to create immersive and erotic experiences.
Bondage
Master the art of restraint with our guides covering everything from beginner bondage to advanced shibari techniques.
Impact Play
Learn about consensual striking activities including spanking techniques and proper safety zones.
Positions
Discover BDSM positions and poses that enhance power dynamics and physical connection.
Toys and Tools
Explore equipment and accessories that enhance your scenes, from BDSM furniture to specialized toys.
For foundational knowledge before exploring these practices, review our BDSM fundamentals and consent guides.
Articles in this section
What Is a Gorean Slave? Kajira Roles and Gor Subculture
What a Gorean slave is, where the kajira role comes from in John Norman's Gor novels, and how the real-world subculture works today.
Submissive Placement and Stepping Play for D/s Scenes
How submissive placement and stepping play work in D/s scenes, what positions communicate, and how to practise them safely and consensually.
BDSM Punishment Ideas: Consent, Negotiation, and Funishments
Practical BDSM punishment ideas grounded in consent, with how to negotiate limits, the difference between real punishments and funishments, and staying safe.
Puppy Play Guide: Pet Play, Training & Community
Complete guide to puppy play: learn about pup headspace, handler dynamics, training techniques, and the welcoming pup community.
Gorean Slave Training 101: Master/Slave Dynamics Guide
Learn the fundamentals of Gorean slave training including kajira positions, protocols, etiquette, and consensual power exchange dynamics inspired by the Chronicles of Gor.
Kitten Play: The Ultimate Guide to Feline Pet Play
Explore kitten play from basics to advanced techniques. Learn about roles, gear, training, bondage, and building healthy owner/kitten relationships.
Understanding Furry Culture
Explore the history, origins, values, and social dynamics of furry culture. Learn about the community's development, debunk common myths, and discover how to get involved.
A Complete Guide to Furry Bondage
Explore furry bondage and BDSM in the fandom. Learn about yiff art, safety guidelines, equipment, and how to combine anthropomorphic role-play with kink.
Handling Submissive Defiance: When a Sub Says No
Explore how Dominants can respond when a submissive casually refuses a command, balancing authority, communication, and discipline while maintaining mutual respect.
What is Brat Taming? Playful Resistance & Containment
Dive deep into the dynamics of brat taming in BDSM, where playful rebellion meets firm containment, creating a thrilling dance of power and connection.
Pet Play Guide: Everything You Need to Know
Complete guide to pet play BDSM: puppy play, kitten play, pony play, training techniques, bondage gear, and building intimate owner-pet dynamics.
BDSM Rigger and Rigger Kink: Roles, Rope, Consent, and Safety
What a rigger is in BDSM, how the rigger and rope bunny dynamic works, and the consent, skill, and safety that good rope bondage demands.
How to Talk to Your Partner About Bondage
Learn how to have an open, positive conversation with your partner about exploring bondage, from choosing the right time and place to handling any reaction with grace and understanding.
What is a Rope Bunny?
Discover what a rope bunny is in BDSM, from the psychology behind rope bondage to getting started safely with ties, positions, and communication tips.
Dom-Sub Dynamics in CBT: Power Exchange & Trust
Explore how cock and ball torture intensifies dom-sub dynamics through power exchange, trust, and intimate control in BDSM play.
Bondage Gear Guide: Equipment and Safe Use
Complete guide to bondage gear and BDSM equipment, from beginner restraints to advanced toys, with safety tips and expert recommendations.
Advanced Shibari Techniques
Master advanced Shibari techniques including suspension, futomomo ties, and hair bondage with this comprehensive safety-focused guide.
Choosing and Caring for Shibari Rope
Complete guide to selecting and maintaining Shibari rope, comparing jute vs hemp, cotton benefits, and proper rope care techniques.
Predicament Bondage: Setup and Role-Play Ideas
Predicament bondage creates a dilemma: maintaining one position avoids one sensation but causes another. Explore creative role-play ideas, and aftercare practices that transform these dilemmas into intimacy and trust.
BDSM Cage: Usage, Scene Ideas, and Safety
A comprehensive guide to BDSM cages , exploring types, scene ideas, consent frameworks, health risks, and aftercare. Learn how to transform confinement into intimacy, ritual, and play while keeping safety at the center.
Duct Tape Bondage: Safety, Setup & Beginner Tips
Curious about duct tape in the bedroom? Learn how to approach tape play with safety, consent, and creativity in mind. This guide covers risks, barriers, circulation checks, and beginner-friendly setups, helping you turn sticky curiosity into intimate connection.
Bed Restraints: Setup, Tools & Positions
From under-the-bed systems to quick-release cuffs, learn how to set up safe, comfortable, and arousing bed restraints. This guide blends clinical research, medical restraint manuals, and community wisdom to help you choose tools, positions, and safety strategies for bondage that excites without compromise.
Bondage Equipment Guide: What to Buy and Where to Find It
From beginner cuffs to advanced dungeon furniture, explore the essential bondage gear you need, how to use it safely, and the best places to find quality equipment for every budget.
Bondage Psychology: Power Dynamics and Connection
Explore the mental, emotional, and relational layers of bondage , from the liberating surrender of submission to the empowering creativity of dominance. Learn how power dynamics foster trust, intimacy, and personal growth.
Bondage Roleplay: Scenarios, Games, and Dirty Talk Ideas
Spice up your sex life with creative bondage roleplay: discover immersive scenarios, playful games, and hot dirty talk prompts, plus essential safety, consent, and privacy tips for every kinky adventure.
Shibari Tutorial: Master Japanese Rope Bondage Techniques
Dive into the art of Shibari, learn its origins, key knots like single & double column ties, chest & body harnesses, decorative patterns, advanced techniques (futomomo, suspension, hair ties), and rope care for a safe, sensual practice.
Bondage for Beginners: The Complete Guide to Getting Started
Discover everything you need to begin your bondage journey safely and sensually, from busting myths and mastering basic knots to setting boundaries, choosing gear, and exploring light tie-ups for nervous newbies.
How to Pull Hair During Sex: Technique, Grip, and Safety
How to pull hair during sex so it feels electric, not painful. Learn where to grip, how much force to use, and the technique that makes a partner melt.
BDSM Whips: Types and How to Use
From crops to bullwhips, explore the full spectrum of BDSM whips, how they’re built, how they feel, and how to use them safely. Learn the psychology of distance, rhythm, and anticipation, plus practical tips for beginners and advanced players.
OTK (Over-the-Knee) Spanking Guide
Discover the art, safety, and intimacy of OTK spanking. From anatomy and technique to negotiation and aftercare, this guide explores how the closeness of over-the-knee play fosters connection, consent, and erotic tension.
Inner-Thigh Spanking: How to Do It Right
Learn the art of inner-thigh spanking, an erotic practice that thrives on anticipation, anatomy-aware safety, and deep consent. Discover techniques, risk zones, and aftercare that transform a risky strike into a profoundly connective experience.
Guide to BDSM Submissive Positions
Discover essential submissive positions in BDSM - from classic kneeling poses to presentation stances. Learn proper form, training techniques, and how to incorporate poses into your D/s dynamic.
Facesitting Positions: Techniques and Variations
Master facesitting positions with expert techniques, comfort tips, and creative variations for intense oral pleasure and power dynamics.
BDSM Bellyriding Fantasy Guide
What do people mean by 'bellyriding'? The term isn't standard clinical language; it's community slang that blends body worship, outercourse, and power exchange. Explore four overlapping versions of this intimate practice.
Sensory Deprivation Kink, Without Being an Idiot About It
What sensory deprivation kink really means, why blindfolds and silence work so well, and how to try it safely without expensive gear.
Edging Kink: Complete Guide to Orgasm Control
Master the art of edging and orgasm control with this complete guide covering techniques, psychology, safety tips, and BDSM power dynamics.
BDSM Orgasm Torture: The Complete Control Guide
Master the art of orgasm control and torture in BDSM. Learn overstimulation techniques, safety protocols, and how to combine restraint with intense pleasure.
Forced Orgasm Stories: Fantasy, Fiction & Consent
Explore forced orgasm stories in erotic literature, the psychology behind the fantasy, and understanding consent in consensual non-consent fiction.
CBT Guide for Beginners
Learn everything about cock and ball torture (CBT) including techniques, safety protocols, psychology, and how to explore this intense BDSM practice safely.
Blindfold Sex Ideas
Dive into the art of blindfold play with this detailed guide, featuring step-by-step scenarios, practical tips, and creative techniques
What Is a Sex Toy Party? What to Expect and How to Host One
The honest, non-sales-pitch guide to sex toy parties: what really happens, how to host one well, and the pushy-consultant pitfalls to watch for.
Nipple Clamps For Beginners: How Not To Hurt Yourself
A beginner-friendly guide to nipple clamps: warming up, getting the pressure right, and timing the release for that bright rush instead of regret.
How to Use a Vibrator Without Overthinking It
The no-nonsense basics: buttons, lube, placement, and cleaning, plus how to work out what actually feels good without any performance pressure.
How to Use a Sex Pillow
How a firm angled wedge gives you deeper penetration, better access, and far less strain on the joints that shouldn't ache during sex.
Autoblow AI Ultra and VacuGlide 2 Review
An honest look at the Autoblow AI Ultra and VacuGlide 2 blowjob machines: how they feel, what they cost, and the awkward bits before you buy.
Anal Hook Guide: What They Are and How to Use Them
What an anal hook is, how it works for predicament bondage and rope play, plus the safety and posture-control details to get right.
Cornstarch Lube: DIY Recipe and Safety Guide
A simple cornstarch lube recipe plus the honest safety, storage, and when-not-to-use-it advice so your cheap kitchen lube does not cause trouble.
How to Use a Rabbit Vibrator
A practical guide to getting the rabbit ears to line up with your clit, finding your angle, and actually enjoying that blended buzz.
How to Pick a Day Collar: Complete BDSM Guide
Learn how to choose the perfect day collar for your BDSM relationship. Explore types, styles, where to buy, and what makes a meaningful discreet collar.
Best Sex Board Games for Couples (Beginner to Advanced)
Discover the best sex board games to spice up your relationship, from romantic starter games to adventurous BDSM experiences. Expert recommendations for every experience level.
Sexy Card Games for Couples: Spice Up Date Night
Discover the best sexy card games for couples to reignite passion, from strip poker to romantic conversation starters. Reviews, DIY ideas, and tips included.
How to Use an Anal Hook: Complete BDSM Bondage Guide
A comprehensive guide to anal hook bondage play, from choosing the right hook to safe usage techniques, predicament bondage scenarios, and aftercare tips.
BDSM Room Setup: Complete Sex Dungeon Guide
Transform any space into your perfect BDSM playroom. Complete guide to dungeon design, layouts, furniture, and fantasy-themed room ideas for every budget.
TENS Unit for Sexual Pleasure: Complete Safety Guide
Discover how to use TENS units for sexual stimulation safely. Learn electrode placement, orgasm techniques, equipment choices, and BDSM integration tips.
Ball Stretcher Guide: Everything You Need to Know
Discover safe ball stretching techniques, how to choose the right stretcher, and best practices for cock and ball toys in BDSM play.
DIY Sex Room Projects: Build Your Own BDSM Furniture
Learn how to build your own BDSM furniture with DIY projects including spanking benches, St. Andrew's crosses, and suspension rigs.
Vibrating Panties Guide and Play Ideas
A comprehensive guide to vibrating panties: how they work, what they feel like, how to choose the right model, and playful ways to use them. From discreet public teasing to long-distance intimacy, explore safe, ethical, and creative ways couples can integrate wearable vibrators into their erotic lives.
BDSM Furniture Guide: Beds, Cages, Benches & Tables
From four-poster bondage beds to discreet cages, spanking benches, and versatile bondage tables , explore how BDSM furniture enhances comfort, safety, and play possibilities. Learn what to look for, how to use each piece, and key safety considerations when furnishing your fantasy space.
Spreader Bars: Sizing, Usage & Scene Ideas
Learn how to choose, size, and safely use spreader bars for bondage and erotic play. This guide covers anatomy, safety, positions, rigging, and scene ideas, balancing pleasure with protection and trust.
Strapless vs Double-Ended Dildos
Strapless strap-ons and double-ended dildos look similar but deliver very different pleasures. Explore anatomy, fit, positions, and safety tips so you can choose, and use, the toy that best fits your play.
How to choose a Thrusting Dildo
Discover how thrusting toys can bring rhythm, endurance, and creativity into your play. From hands-free pulsators to full machines, learn what to look for based on body, fantasy, and context, plus the safety and care essentials that make them last.